Nurses: When one of us is Killed

By December 10, 2015Uncategorized

53f75b0cfa343b8ef0b656ee91ba4badI know that you feel the same horror I feel after reading This tragic story about a nurse and a domestic abuse survivor…..now a domestic abuse fatality.

She was leaving work, and was shot and killed by her estranged husband. He was out on bond for the last time he beat her up.  She leaves behind two daughters.

Nurses tend to stick around for domestic abuse.  We are caring people who ‘fix’ others.  How many Nurses have you known who are domestic abuse survivors?

The real question is…..how many have you NOT known about?

We are tasked with screening patients to determine if they are at risk for domestic violence. We must determine if a child is being abused from the ER and School environments.

Maybe someone should screen US.

When you search the internet for statistics about nurses as victims, you really have to dig.  Most articles are about us properly screening potential victims. The UK NHS did a study on domestic violence within the profession, and the numbers are startling.  65% reported instances of emotional violence, and 31% reported acts of physical violence.

If you know of a healthcare provider who is currently experiencing intimate partner violence, do what you can to help. Offer support, research support in your area, and help her take extra precautions, maybe by offering to call security or the police to see her safely to her car.  Yes, I said ‘her’.  MOST fatal domestic violence is perpetrated by men against women.  I know there is violence against men as well, but we are talking about the big picture here.

National Domestic Violence Hotline for US

And for Zeljka Sekulic, it is too late.  For her daughters it is too late. For her Mother, her Sister, her friends and coworkers, it is TOO DAMN LATE.  All I can do for her today is share her fund raising website so she can be decently buried.

Raise your sons to respect women.  Raise your daughters to respect themselves. Please.

Love,

Janie

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  • Cathy Marrone says:

    Thank you for bringing attention to this. A friend of mine was murdered by the husband of his coworker while helping her move out of her situation. Nurses need to not give the benefit of doubt nor figure they can “fix” or help some people especially a loved one.

  • On point Janie! I know…that was me. “Nurses tend to stick around for domestic abuse.” Before I became a nurse. Thank you for shining a light.

  • Lisa Blake says:

    Nurses are born to care for others. At times I believe we forget to care for ourselves. And now it is too late for my beloved zeljka… this breaks my heart

  • Jan says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. My best friend was stabbed 11 times 2 days before she was to go to divorce court. In front of her attorneys office. Police were called to her home numerous times throughout the years. All she wanted was to live in peace and continue her IVF nursing and taking care of her children and aged mother. She was an extraordinary soul. She had wonderful friends who tried to help but evil won that dreadful day. I pray everyday that the monster who took away this beautiful nurse is brought to justice!

  • I am a domestic violence survivor. I was fortunate. I made it out alive. All too often that is not the case such as in the case of Zeljka Sekulic. Nurses are a caring bunch of people. But the person we often forget to care about the most is ourselves. And don’t forget….no matter how many times a woman says she is going to leave her abuser but goes back to them, don’t abandon that person. She just hasn’t enough self-esteem to walk out that door this time. The next time may be her time and she is going to need a strong and supportive network helping to lift her up.

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